P-O-R-N

The betrayal we are bullied to accept as a culture

Lets go there lovers…… today I want to talk about the quiet and painful betrayal not many are ready to talk about…

Let’s name this something that has been eroding relationships from the inside for far too long. For many…silently, privately, and with a kind of cultural approval that has numbed us to the impact.

I am talking about porn. Not porn as a concept itself but as the casual habit/ addiction that way too many have packed in their relationship suitcase.

And for the sake of this email I am going to speak to the construct of heterosexual relationships with the man being the one watching p-rn…

why ?…The Institute for Family Studies found that in committed relationships (married, engaged), many women “never” use pornography compared to men. Plus men are 3–4x more likely to view porn alone than women. so there is that….

Imagine this…if a woman whom was in a committed relationship were going out to clubs, standing in corners watching strangers having sex…If she were attending sex parties and touching herself while watching other people get off….( I mean hello to a great girls night out..but..) If she were spending her private, intimate hours turned on by someone else’s body while her partner sat at home unaware…

I would pitch a bet that most men would not tolerate it for one bit..
They would call it betrayal, disrespect. and might even pack their bags.

Yet so many women are expected to quietly swallow the pain of their man doing the exact same thing….but behind a screen.

we live in a culture where Porn has become be the socially acceptable and tolerable form of infidelity for many.

When you watch porn you are giving your arousal, your attention, your sexual energy, your fantasy… to other women.
You are watching other bodies, other lips, other moans, other orgasms … instead of investing in the one woman who is right there, who has said YES to all the boring shit of relationships…mortgage, exhaustion, cooking endless meals, family visits, cleaning a bigger house than she would if she lived alone..etc etc… is craving depth and connection with you…but you choose otherwise…..

What men often do not comprehend or realize is that what feels to them like “just a release” lands in the body of his woman body as abandonment.
As comparison.
As rejection.
As a silent and eroding choosing of something, or someone else.

Most men would not allow his woman to choose other men to watch naked f*cking other women out in these incredibly sexy and exciting real life sex parties…. just saying…

Porn becomes the coward’s way out:
The quick fix instead of the honest conversation.
The escape instead of the effort.
The fantasy instead of the true and at times uncomfortable intimacy.

Relationships are designed for growth..not comfort.

A man can say he loves his woman…
But if he is consistently choosing pixels over presence, then his choice is convenient distance over connection with his partner.

This is the moment to ask real questions:

• Why are you avoiding the woman who committed to you?

• Why are you giving your erotic energy to strangers?

• Why are you comfortable witnessing other women in pleasure but unable to create time for your own?

• What conversations have you been avoiding? What needs of yours have you buried?

• What would actually happen if you finally stopped hiding? What would be required in the relationship?

Lover what would become possible if you directed all that sexual energy back into the relationship? into her, into the two of you, into the life you are building?

Men are capable of extraordinary things when they choose courage over convenience.

And intimacy requires courage god damn it.
Honesty requires courage.
Looking your partner in the eyes and saying, “I am struggling can we find our way back together?”
That is the kind of bravery that creates legendary love. And that is what she signed up for…and I am sure you did too.

This is not about shame.
It is about hard honesty and true integrity.
It is about calling men back to presence, devotion, connection, and actual intimacy instead of hollow substitutes.

Because when a man stops outsourcing his arousal and brings his erotic energy home…
Everything changes, the trust strengthens, the desire deepens and her body opens to you again.

If you know that it is time for your relationship to become a living, breathing erotic ecosystem again. then I have something for you.

I have opened up one off calls available until the end of the yr so you can have a solid 2hr session to speak about anything you need to.

Maybe it is time for that conversation.
Maybe it is time to stop pretending it is “no big deal.” and have the courage to do something about the silent hum that is deteriorating your relationship

Go ahead and book here lovers ..you came for greatness..so lets get you there.

With fire, truth, and devotion and of course pleasure
M

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