Marriage has always been about agreements.

Signing on a dotted line when you place a ring on your finger is deemed normal, so lets make S-E-X + KINK contracts normal as well.

Marriage has always been about agreements. Yet it has been diminished to evolve around sexual agreements. Who you can ( and cannot ) have sex with.

Yet for many, sex is a value often left under the rug as all other parts of marriage take precedent. What this means is the lack of sex or control of sex is what controls those inside of the marriage.

Monogamy is where the two people involved in the marriage agree on how the marriage works.

Not an institution.

When the catholic church started to truly understand that when couples who could not bear children, invited and included a third person (a woman) into their relationship in order to bring forth children into the marriage, the church would miss out on potential wealth.

You see a couple who cannot bear children would have no one to leave their wealth to, other than the church.

When a couple who cannot conceive invites another in and children are born then the wealth is distributed and passed down within the family.

Hence the change of “monogamy” from an agreement between people to the agreement of only sex between two people.

Is anyone else not surprised that the control of a woman's womb and s&xu@lity was a financial decision?

The true meaning of what most marriages are constructed under today is mono-poly. (I always say it like the game..monopoly) The monopolization of people by a set of rules set out by a governing institution.

Rules set by a body that does not even know those whom it is governing.

In another email to come I will be explaining more about the misconception of terminology around “titles”. It will be an eye opening email 😜

So whilst we deem all kinds of contracts to be normal, a relationship, intimate, and sex agreement is actually something incredibly powerful.

Nourishing.

And it is important to be accountable to our relationship and intimate agreements.

We know how important it is stay accountable to the banks, work, sports team etc etc…… it is imperative we also stay accountable to the growth in our sexual relationship.

One component that is non negotiable in the KINK world which creates incredible safety within agreements is a contract.

Yet going from a relationship where there is no agreement to having a KINK contract is a huge leap with missing holes.

Many enter into relationships not truly knowing the energetic contract they agree on and then get tripped on the fine print that was not offered to read and ponder if they could agree or not. 

So to be creating a KINK agreement can quite rightly so, feel overwhelming

Contracts inside of KINK containers and relationships are a must. A set of agreements on what will or won't happen and what is to happen if boundaries are crossed.

Talking about sex openly and writing it down in a contract brings meaning to even vanilla relationships.

It creates safety and accountability.

Inside of a KINK contract these points must be included.

• Roles & Expectations

• Safe words

• Rituals ad rules

• Hard & Soft limits

• Agreed upon punishments (or fun-ishments)

• Duration and type of dynamic

But first..relationship agreements.

What do you need then want in yours?

I would love to hear how you go with this. You can even use it as a guideline to write your own.

Have FUN with it.

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On Friday my video will be a beautiful deep dive into setting up relationship agreements, relationship vision and a KINK Contract.

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