Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise

Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise

How he hears the word “want”

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Melissa Louise
Aug 31, 2026
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Working with so many men each and every week, I get to collect a lot of data.

Last week I heard from several different men that they were frustrated with the confusion they felt with the fact that their partner. wife, or new lover was upset with them for not showing up in different areas in they way she needed him to.

With every single conversation I saw a pattern.

It goes like this.

She says, “I’d love it if you texted me during the day sometimes.”

He hears…. that is “nice to have” . Kind of optional and will do when he remembers.

( ….i know i know.. i can feel the women already saying wtf!!! ..just wait …)

A week or so later, she is hurt, annoyed, acting distant and for one guy, she was actually done.

The men…all in their own version of this situation, were standing there thinking, what just happened, what is wrong and why is she so upset over that?

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..IF… if you are stuck in this loop and see yourself in these words I write, and feel like you are too far in the spiral to “just” change the word from want to need, then lets get on a discovery call and talk on how I can get you out of it and into the relating that supports and empowers both of you.

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