Let’s talk about the infamous “jackhammering” in sex
You know the kind of sex I mean. That male centric fast, repetitive pounding that is so often glorified in porn and unfortunately mimicked in bedrooms across the world.
The actual fact is that it rarely feels good. Not for her nor for you.
Many men are taught that it is a manly, powerful way to f*ck a woman. Yet it is the sure way to separate you from her.
Here are 10 reasons jackhammering doesn’t serve either of you:
1. It disconnects you.
You leave your body. She leaves hers. No one’s home and no one’s feeling anything meaningful.
2. It shortens your stamina.
Fast thrusting = fast finish. Instead of making you “the man” it is the quickest way to tip over the edge before either of you are truly satisfied.
3. It doesn’t give her time to open.
Her body needs slowing down, rhythm, breath, and presence to open. Jackhammering slams her body ( and her heart ) shut.
4. It can be physically painful.
Especially if she isn’t fully aroused, ( naturally ) lubricated, or emotionally connected. This kind of pain is not pleasure.
5. It imitates porn. Not passion.
Real intimacy is dynamic, sensual, and intuitive. Not robotic pounding.
6. It causes her to fake it.
Because she doesn’t want to hurt your ego. And that’s heartbreaking. ( and emasculating )
7. It’s often about performance, not connection.
It’s rooted in a false belief of "doing it right" instead of feeling what is right.
8. It lacks erotic intelligence. ( the emphasis here is intelligence )
Eroticism is built on tension, teasing, timing. Not one-speed-fits-all action.
9. It reinforces shame and disappointment (for both of you).
When it ends quickly and leaves her unsatisfied, everyone feels it. And you just don’t get a call back. You failed the interview.
10. It bypasses your real power.
Your true sexual potency comes when you lead with presence, not just force. Your true power is handling it when it is slow.
Here are 5 things to do Instead of Jackhammering (that she will actually thank you for)
1. Slow it down…. then slow it down more. ( up to 10 x )
Speed isn't intensity.
When you slow down and feel every inch, you give her body time to melt, not brace. She will continue to open and open and pull you in!
2. Match her breath.
Start to sync your breathing with hers.
This drops you into presence, calms your system, and builds real time intimacy. Breath is the true and vastly understated language of arousal.
3. Use hip rotation, not just in-and-out thrusts.
Swirl, grind, tease. Explore motion beyond the jack hammer piston style penetration.
Her internal world of pleasure spots (like the G-spot and A-spot) respond best to curved, intentional movement. Not the pounding.
4. Tease the edge.
Pull out. Hover. Look her in the eyes. Wait. Let the space build tension.
Erotic power lives in the juicy anticipation. Not just in action.
5. Anchor into your own arousal.
The more grounded you are, the more she can open.
When you learn to master your arousal, you last longer, feel more, and become the kind of man she craves more of.
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Always with a dose of pleasure.
M